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  • Writer's pictureAudrey Chin

Rejection sucks … Let’s get rejected!

Updated: Jun 10, 2022

Life gives us enough rejections. No point getting more than our fair share of hurt. Why go looking for grief?

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If you do, you might be pleasantly surprised, Jacqueline Boone tells us in her wonderful blog on Rejection Therapy at

If we don’t ask, we don’t get.

Because we fear rejection, we don’t ask enough … of our friends, of the god, the world.

And so, we get less than we deserve.

The core of rejection therapy, committing to getting rejected at least once a day, forces us to ask and ask frequently.

The more we ask, the more we get.

Writer’s block

As a writer I’ve had my fair share of rejections. I try not to take it personally. It’s just not right for them, I tell myself. I need to do more research.  And then some days I just break down and let those whispers  get to me – that I just don’t have what it takes, that I’m just not good enough, that I’m never going to make it.

It happened last week.

I believe in synchronicity. That’s when Jacqueline’s message popped into my mail box.

No pain no gain, I told myself. If I didn’t ask, I wouldn’t get. I went out and started to look for rejection.

What I found was …

I started to send out a query a day to international agents  I haven’t gotten a positive yet but practice is making perfect; I’m clearer and clearer about the type of agent I want.

I asked super busy unliterary Significant Other to review my query letter  He’s a natural marketer and gave some great suggestions.

I asked another super busy friend for more market positioning help  She came and sat with me for over an hour over yam and pumpkin cake and green tea.

I re-connected with a non-fiction editor and asked for referrals She sent them and said to use her name!

I asked an influential friend if she knew anyone She sent my manuscript onto a friend who told her it’s promising and he’ll network it around;)

I sent a query direct to two local boutique publishers One said to send a  sample J

I did get some “no’s” but I also got a lot of affirmations I wouldn’t have gotten if I hadn’t asked.

So I’ve learnt something this week – To open my mouth, to ask.

I’ve learnt REJECTION THERAPY’S worth a shot.  

Try it and share what you discovered. Leave a comment

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